Coping With September 11
Strategies for Dealing With September 11th
Anniversaries of tragedies can be difficult times for many people. For some, especially those family members and friends who were directly touched, the anniversary of 9/11 is a powerful reminder of loss. For others, who thought they had put the tragedy behind them, the anniversary may produce unexpected anxiety or grief.
The anniversary, and the media replay of all the day’s destruction and aftermath that may come with it, may stir strong emotions and difficult memories in many of us. But there are ways to cope:
- Observe the anniversary in a way that’s comfortable for you. Being with other people, getting involved in memorial activities and talking about the tragedy are all important coping strategies, but taking time to be by yourself – to think and reflect – can be helpful and healing as well.
- Limit television as much as possible. The visual images can prompt especially strong reactions. Instead, be prepared to turn to a movie channel, read a book, or go to Blockbuster.
- If you start to feel overwhelmed, talk with a friend, family member, or your AFA EAP. Often, talking about your fears and feelings is enough to relieve stress and realize that other people share your feelings. Taking action is a sign of strength and self-awareness.
- Recall other times you’ve experienced strong emotions. Identify which coping strategies have worked for you in the past, and use them.
- Don’t compare yourself to how others around you appear to be dealing with the September 11 anniversary. Everyone experiences and copes with stress differently. Try not to judge people’s emotions by their outsides.
- If you have children, encourage them to discuss their concerns and feelings with you.
- If you have strong feelings that haven’t or won’t go away, seeking help from a professional may prove useful. Your AFA EAP can provide you with referrals.
- Share this information with a flying partner who may be struggling with the upcoming anniversary.
Modified from information from the National Mental Health Association
Please call AFA EAP at 1-800-424-2406 for assistance. For international locations please use:
202-434-0560.
Or contact your local AFA EAP committee listed at http://www.afanet.org/eap/
